Ive been on my fair share of Hen nights...and apart from enjoyment, I've never really understood them. I don't 'get' hen or stag nights. Ok...it's a celebration of a rite of passage...I 'get' that. But what else is it? *puzzled* I suggested to someone recently that she could arrange her own then she would get what she wanted and invite who she wanted. Apparently that is NOT the done thing. *LOL* Each nationality seems to have it's own customs around this tradition....none of which I 'get' *LOL* It seems to be a tradition in Britain for women to either do thishttp://www.maximise.co.uk/hen-weekends/cardiff/butlers-in-the-buff-and-wine-tasting.htm
Or go for a weekend abroad somewhere and do all three...and sometime have sex with all and sundry.
Traditional stag nights seem to go http://www.stagsandhens.com/stag-party-ideas.php
for the action man stuff (why don't hen parties do this?) and throw in lots of booze too... So all these things can be done at anytime......why are they done with SUCH intensity and abandon when the occassion is a stag/hen night?
In the UK, Ireland and Canada referred to as a stag party, stag night, stag do, or a bucks party in Australia and bachelor party in America is a party held for the single man just before he enters marriage bliss with his future wife. It is a celebration in the groom’s honour, although it may not seem like it at the time, and is sometimes known as his last night of freedom to answer the call of the wild and get up to activities which his future wife may not approve of.
It is an opportunity to gather together a group of people who have had some influence or connection with the grooms rite of passage to manhood. This can be childhood friends, schools friends, student years, family, work colleagues and sport team associates. It can often be the last opportunity to get this grouping of people together before the Groom and his peers take on more responsible adult marital roles. This is not just you average night for drinking in the pub or bar. It has a tradition and mystique associated with it involving pranks, tricks and lots of drinking usually at the groom’s expense. It often has a risqué element such as strippers or being stripped and tied to lampposts in the dead of night. They have an image of being rowdy and boisterous
The consensus seems to be that it was originally called the bachelor dinner, or stag party. Like many other wedding traditions, the custom seems to extend back into ancient history. Evidence suggests it first came about in the fifth century, in Sparta, where military comrades would feast and toast one another on the eve of a friend’s wedding. There he would say goodbye to the carefree days of bachelorhood and swear continued allegiance to his comrades.
There's another stag connection with odd male rituals - even possibly ones that involve willingly drinking alcohol to excess and regurgitative quantities, soliciting the favours of ladies who are prepared happily to remove all their clothing for the appropriate fee, and then being left naked chained to a lamp-post somewhere. The Horned God referred to in both Celtic and early English mythology was a symbol of all things male - the Celts called him Cernunnos. Legend from these times is often confused, but it seems clear that in pre-Christian times, Brits definitely worshipped a large hairy god who sported antlers, ran around with the Einheriar, or wild hunt, and who probably belched at inappropriate times, never bothered putting the toilet seat back down, and who stayed out far too late without ever phoning home to warn anyone. These are things you will have to get used to.
I'm getting the uncomfortable feeling that many couples look on thier stag/hen night as the end of 'freedom' and good times. Sad.
Am I one of the few who doesn't 'get' it? What do you think is the reason for these over the top parties. And why not just have an over the top party? *LOL*
Is this a stag night or a hen night gone wrong? *LOL* A lesson to be learned here?